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Connection

Remember the movie “Contact” where Jodi Foster plays Ellie? Where she finally gets the chance not to just see the Alien but talk to it? The Alien, taking on the very personal, physical form of her father says to her, “You’re an interesting species; An interesting mix. You’re capable of such beautiful dreams and such horrible nightmares. You feel so lost, so cut off, so alone, only you’re not. See, in all our...

Garage Sale Litigation

In the July 2011 DMagazine there was an article entitled, “Highland Park’s Finest Garage Sale”. The article reads, “Our next door neighbor recently held a garage sale. At the edge of the driveway, she’d placed a cushion-less leather couch. “Where are the cushions?” I asked when I walked over. The answer came not from the owner herself but from a second neighbor after an awkward silence, “Her ex-husband took...

How to Know When You Are Working Harder Than Your ...

I spend several days out of my week working along side Family Law Attorneys in various settings from Adoption Home Studies, Disputed Custody Home Studies, serving as a Parent Facilitator, a Counselor or a Communications Facilitator on Collaborative Law cases.  I’ve witnessed attorneys experiencing the exhaustion that comes from working with Families in Conflict. I too go through periods of exhaustion due to the intense...

Being Resilient When Ending a Relationship

Marriages/relationships have a history and that history sets the stage for the emotions during a divorce/ending of relationship. Relationship histories, otherwise called our “stories”, can carry with them a lot of pain, anger, blaming, rigidity, black and white thinking and hidden agendas. These emotions, while very important to work through, work against us in the process of divorce. The emotions can cause the...

Full Circle

I remember the day that I heard about Collaborative Law. I was so excited to hear that it existed and I couldn’t wait to get involved with it. My first of two trainings was held in Lubbock Texas; the city where I was born. I had never been there as an adult and only knew that, as an infant, I had lived there for three months. When I told my mom about my new career endeavor, Collaborative Law (read the history of my...

My Story

“I don’t know when my parents began their war against each other – but I do know the only prisoners they took were their children.” Tom Wingo- Prince of Tides My parents married when my Dad was 33 and my Mom was 18.  They were married in 1963 and divorced in 1968. It was a devastating marriage; multiple moves, affairs by both parents and full of verbal and physical violence.  Then the savagery of...

Communications Facilitator in Collaborative Law

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